Quality Transformation (Change)

The easiest way to understand quality change is to consider the example of roses. These beautiful flowers, although nourished by smelly manure, do not take any of its odour (smell) or colour. They are truly like kings of gardens, in their pink, gold, red and white robes, filling the air with such a fragrance that people who come to the garden do not even notice the manure. The roots of the roses are able to transform (change) the manure to such an extent that the best is taken without any negative side effects. This is an example of quality change.

The human world is like a garden. We are like a variety of flowers surrounded by lots of manure, that is, negativity in all its forms, such as ego, fear, anger, attachment, mistrust, etc. People who are 'quality transformers' can accept all these negative things and use them for their personal growth without the negativity penetrating (entering) them; they do not get spoilt, or even touched by it. With understanding and the natural, loving detachment that comes from silence, they realise that the negative person, or situation, in front of them is the Universe’s way of giving them an opportunity to create a tiny, silent miracle in their lives. Quality transformers become the spiritual roses in the Garden of Humanity: they display all their beauty and provide inspiration for all those who see them.

PATIENCE

Patience is the lifeline. When we think about this word, it’s like yes everyone necessitate it. In today’s world we can’t wait for anything, we want everything thing as soon as possible, if we don’t get that either we give up or say it is not in my destiny. No, it’s not right it is in your destiny but with a little patience you will absolutely get it.
Patience doesn’t mean putting up with people. Patience means accepting the people as they are and saying that okei that’s their way. It doesn’t mean that we are tolerating people and say that I’ have been tolerating you since from a long time, it becomes like a pressure cooker, we are taking n taking in ourselves and one day it come out in form of mess. There is one saying “NOBODY GETS ANYTHING BEFORE THE RIGHT TIME, AND MORE THAN WHAT IS IN HIS/HER FATE”. It’s true if we put efforts for something we definitely get, it might be it takes some time but if our intention and believe on that particular thing is right then everything will be going perfect. So patience always has the first priority in life."The key to everything is patience. You get the chicken by hatching the egg, not by smashing it".

DESIRE

Wow..... What a lovely word “DESIRE”. It’s like a seed which makes tree. It’s like a wish which gives us whatever we want .It can be our career, love, family or whatever u say. Having a strong feeling of it, you get all the things but for that you must having that feeling .By believe passionately in something that still does not exist, we create it. The nonexistent is whatever we have not sufficiently desired. We see people with this saying,” I want this but how to get it that I don’t know”. If we ask to ourselves that I really want it and seriously we don’t know that how to get it, it’s unfeasible because where there's a will, there's a way. So first ask to you that you really want it. If answer is yes then you will get it after giving your hard slog or the things which requires getting it. It happens sometime that what you want it’s too hard-hitting, it takes so much time might be year or years but at last, u get it that’s my believe. I just depends on you that how much you are curious/keen to acquire it or what’s the altitude of your passion. But there are two things necessary, first believe you’re in yourself that you can do this or having the adequate caliber to do this, if you think you can then you can. Second the quality of your thoughts to accomplish this. It must be of optimistic because what we think either positive or negative .It creates feeling then attitude or then it comes in action then it becomes our DESTINY. So, which type of action you want depends on you because YOU ARE THE CREATOR OF YOUR OWN DESTINY. See again choice is in your hands, what you want to be, happy or sad, if happy then ignore that things which is of no use and accept only those which is of use and if sad then there is no need to tell anything. Desire with your positivity does not stop you to chasing what you want. There is one Dialogue that “Agar kisi cheez ko dil se chaaho to puri kayanat usey tumse milane ki koshish mein lag jaati hai.” :)

SELF-ESTEEM

It means giving value to your thoughts, feelings, emotions and yourself overall. We should give respect to our-selves. If we are expecting respect from other people then first we have to give it to our-selves. Sometimes we feel that other people are doing better than us and we start criticizing ourselves. It’s totally wrong if you are comparing yourself with others, it means that you are insulting yourself “DON’T SEE OTHERS AS DOING BETTER THEN YOU.BEAT YOUR OWN RECORDS EVERYDAY AND YOU WILL SURELY FIND SUCCESS”.

RELATIONSHIP

It is very beautiful and innocent word which the god has made for us, either it’s a parent-child relationship, husband-wife relationship or any other kind of relationship. In every relationship there are lots of love ,trust, respect for each otheris there. But when we see around us ,can we see the love ? firstly we take the parent-child relationship, we can see that teenager’s stop to share their personal life with their parents, even it is not that much personal but according to their vision and parents ask to other people that now my children don’t share anything with me neither they are telling their problems nor asking anything. what should I do, why it happens? Have any parent considered this problem that why a children start doing this? We should ask it to our self that when they do some something and tell, any kind of thing which is irrational, unreasonable (immature, childish). What was my response at that time towards my child. Did I accept his view or just told to him/her that don’t do this thing ,it is not good for you. Here we create a resistance between us and children. We are unable to tell them that it’s wrong. When we do/say this to children then what they suddenly think that my mom dad, don’t understand me and my feelings, everything which I tell them they say no its wrong, its not good for you . So, now onwards I will not tell anything to them. I know what is good for me. Then the problem has begun, when children stop sharing with their parents. Parents should understand that firstly we should accept our child with his/her views , it can be of any type then we should start to share our apprehensions regarding that. After doing this children will implicitly understand that what is good and bad for them because here they get everything from their parents (experiences and acceptance). Now whatever the child will do either it is good or bad, he/she will ask or say to their parents. So it becomes easy for both to understand each other. Then we come to second one Husband-wife relationship, here they both want he/she will change then we will live a happy life. No will change because in this universe everyone is excellent as they are. So they should be aware of that “RELATIONSHIPS ARE NOT FOR TAKING ONLY,THEY ARE OF GIVING”. Currently we are so much occupying in our self and we don’t have time to give. Everyone is having merits and demerits. If we see only demerits in a person then we can’t be happy but if we see that wow that person is having so many merits we are ignoring demerits here then what we feel that she/he’s perfect person for me. So again everything is there merits and demerits but I just changed my way of thinking (perception) and see I love that person . So it’s so easy once you accept that person and they will automatically change according to you. Here you will not say that I don’t like your this habit just change it ,NO .Here you are accepting that habit then share your view it . So, Neither that person feel bad not u. And life goes so smoothly. So ,just live with love ,trust and respect with your partner and make your relationship strong without changing anyone. :)

ANGER

It is very interesting topic for everyone. Anger, we always say that I get angry when some people say wrong things to me or when something is going out of my control . So I got angry at that moment. But what can we do with this anger, after being aggressive, then people would say good things to me or situation would come in my favor. If one of the thing is possible out of two then I can say that anger is very good. But in reality nothing would happen. If you have an very important meeting and you stuck in the traffic then what would you do at that moment , grumbling, shouting , cribbing . Is this beneficial for you or for your mental state for that moment? If you are going in a meeting or for some important work, No way ,we just wasting our time and energy in this stupid stuff which wouldn’t be worthy for us .It is just a time consuming task nothing more than else. Then what can we do at that time . We can do many things at that time , we can plan our strategy or if any presentation is there then we can plan how to start and finish it, if our exam is there then we can take some relax at that time or if nothing is there then we can call someone whom we can’t give time in our busy life. So we can do lots of things rather than doing the anger. See choice or response is in your hand , what do you want “ANGER ” or “HAPPINESS ”.Again the same thing Response and choice depend on you not on the others or situations. :)

SILENCE

When we listen this word “Silence”, what we think at that moment , Peace, calm, tranquility. But we ever think that we really have this in our life. We are just going with pace. We are running behind to achieve our targets or getting something worth. But why we are running , we can also achieve this with peace and calmness .we can do all the things with silence. But in today’s world what we always see that what someone or other person do we should behave same like them even we don’t think that why they are behaving like, is there any reason for it. Take an example like …just I entered in the office and someone got disturb or angry due to his own reason but when I came to his contact, I did the same behave with him. He was angry and told me something in a wrong way and after just listing these words I was irritable , even didn’t realize that why he was so upset or angry. I used more better wrong words for him. I thought how he dare to me saying like this. STOP just think for little moment at that time. Back to this example when you entered in the office and met with that person who was so angry but YOU were so calm, fresh and full of positivity and met with person. HERE you can do a lot .Just meet that person with calmness and give a peaceful smile and then ask silently what happened and if possible then give any idea to resolve his problem due to which he got angry. HERE you change your destiny, don’t know how .See when you meet that person with calmness ,you just accept him at that time and give your positivity to him ,here no confliction no discord nothing else only and only peace ,silence. So you build your strong relationship here. If this same thing you repeat everywhere then you can analyze that you can easily change your destiny because with silence and peace you can concentrate more on your work and you can give your best effort to your work.
Have you seen ever SEA …what sea does, if we throw any stone in them either it take that stone in the depth from where that stone never comes out or just flow that stone with waves to seashore from where it again never comes back. We should be like sea cool ,calm and full with peace.:)