Quality Transformation (Change)

The easiest way to understand quality change is to consider the example of roses. These beautiful flowers, although nourished by smelly manure, do not take any of its odour (smell) or colour. They are truly like kings of gardens, in their pink, gold, red and white robes, filling the air with such a fragrance that people who come to the garden do not even notice the manure. The roots of the roses are able to transform (change) the manure to such an extent that the best is taken without any negative side effects. This is an example of quality change.

The human world is like a garden. We are like a variety of flowers surrounded by lots of manure, that is, negativity in all its forms, such as ego, fear, anger, attachment, mistrust, etc. People who are 'quality transformers' can accept all these negative things and use them for their personal growth without the negativity penetrating (entering) them; they do not get spoilt, or even touched by it. With understanding and the natural, loving detachment that comes from silence, they realise that the negative person, or situation, in front of them is the Universe’s way of giving them an opportunity to create a tiny, silent miracle in their lives. Quality transformers become the spiritual roses in the Garden of Humanity: they display all their beauty and provide inspiration for all those who see them.

PATIENCE

Patience is the lifeline. When we think about this word, it’s like yes everyone necessitate it. In today’s world we can’t wait for anything, we want everything thing as soon as possible, if we don’t get that either we give up or say it is not in my destiny. No, it’s not right it is in your destiny but with a little patience you will absolutely get it.
Patience doesn’t mean putting up with people. Patience means accepting the people as they are and saying that okei that’s their way. It doesn’t mean that we are tolerating people and say that I’ have been tolerating you since from a long time, it becomes like a pressure cooker, we are taking n taking in ourselves and one day it come out in form of mess. There is one saying “NOBODY GETS ANYTHING BEFORE THE RIGHT TIME, AND MORE THAN WHAT IS IN HIS/HER FATE”. It’s true if we put efforts for something we definitely get, it might be it takes some time but if our intention and believe on that particular thing is right then everything will be going perfect. So patience always has the first priority in life."The key to everything is patience. You get the chicken by hatching the egg, not by smashing it".

DESIRE

Wow..... What a lovely word “DESIRE”. It’s like a seed which makes tree. It’s like a wish which gives us whatever we want .It can be our career, love, family or whatever u say. Having a strong feeling of it, you get all the things but for that you must having that feeling .By believe passionately in something that still does not exist, we create it. The nonexistent is whatever we have not sufficiently desired. We see people with this saying,” I want this but how to get it that I don’t know”. If we ask to ourselves that I really want it and seriously we don’t know that how to get it, it’s unfeasible because where there's a will, there's a way. So first ask to you that you really want it. If answer is yes then you will get it after giving your hard slog or the things which requires getting it. It happens sometime that what you want it’s too hard-hitting, it takes so much time might be year or years but at last, u get it that’s my believe. I just depends on you that how much you are curious/keen to acquire it or what’s the altitude of your passion. But there are two things necessary, first believe you’re in yourself that you can do this or having the adequate caliber to do this, if you think you can then you can. Second the quality of your thoughts to accomplish this. It must be of optimistic because what we think either positive or negative .It creates feeling then attitude or then it comes in action then it becomes our DESTINY. So, which type of action you want depends on you because YOU ARE THE CREATOR OF YOUR OWN DESTINY. See again choice is in your hands, what you want to be, happy or sad, if happy then ignore that things which is of no use and accept only those which is of use and if sad then there is no need to tell anything. Desire with your positivity does not stop you to chasing what you want. There is one Dialogue that “Agar kisi cheez ko dil se chaaho to puri kayanat usey tumse milane ki koshish mein lag jaati hai.” :)

SELF-ESTEEM

It means giving value to your thoughts, feelings, emotions and yourself overall. We should give respect to our-selves. If we are expecting respect from other people then first we have to give it to our-selves. Sometimes we feel that other people are doing better than us and we start criticizing ourselves. It’s totally wrong if you are comparing yourself with others, it means that you are insulting yourself “DON’T SEE OTHERS AS DOING BETTER THEN YOU.BEAT YOUR OWN RECORDS EVERYDAY AND YOU WILL SURELY FIND SUCCESS”.

RELATIONSHIP

It is very beautiful and innocent word which the god has made for us, either it’s a parent-child relationship, husband-wife relationship or any other kind of relationship. In every relationship there are lots of love ,trust, respect for each otheris there. But when we see around us ,can we see the love ? firstly we take the parent-child relationship, we can see that teenager’s stop to share their personal life with their parents, even it is not that much personal but according to their vision and parents ask to other people that now my children don’t share anything with me neither they are telling their problems nor asking anything. what should I do, why it happens? Have any parent considered this problem that why a children start doing this? We should ask it to our self that when they do some something and tell, any kind of thing which is irrational, unreasonable (immature, childish). What was my response at that time towards my child. Did I accept his view or just told to him/her that don’t do this thing ,it is not good for you. Here we create a resistance between us and children. We are unable to tell them that it’s wrong. When we do/say this to children then what they suddenly think that my mom dad, don’t understand me and my feelings, everything which I tell them they say no its wrong, its not good for you . So, now onwards I will not tell anything to them. I know what is good for me. Then the problem has begun, when children stop sharing with their parents. Parents should understand that firstly we should accept our child with his/her views , it can be of any type then we should start to share our apprehensions regarding that. After doing this children will implicitly understand that what is good and bad for them because here they get everything from their parents (experiences and acceptance). Now whatever the child will do either it is good or bad, he/she will ask or say to their parents. So it becomes easy for both to understand each other. Then we come to second one Husband-wife relationship, here they both want he/she will change then we will live a happy life. No will change because in this universe everyone is excellent as they are. So they should be aware of that “RELATIONSHIPS ARE NOT FOR TAKING ONLY,THEY ARE OF GIVING”. Currently we are so much occupying in our self and we don’t have time to give. Everyone is having merits and demerits. If we see only demerits in a person then we can’t be happy but if we see that wow that person is having so many merits we are ignoring demerits here then what we feel that she/he’s perfect person for me. So again everything is there merits and demerits but I just changed my way of thinking (perception) and see I love that person . So it’s so easy once you accept that person and they will automatically change according to you. Here you will not say that I don’t like your this habit just change it ,NO .Here you are accepting that habit then share your view it . So, Neither that person feel bad not u. And life goes so smoothly. So ,just live with love ,trust and respect with your partner and make your relationship strong without changing anyone. :)

ANGER

It is very interesting topic for everyone. Anger, we always say that I get angry when some people say wrong things to me or when something is going out of my control . So I got angry at that moment. But what can we do with this anger, after being aggressive, then people would say good things to me or situation would come in my favor. If one of the thing is possible out of two then I can say that anger is very good. But in reality nothing would happen. If you have an very important meeting and you stuck in the traffic then what would you do at that moment , grumbling, shouting , cribbing . Is this beneficial for you or for your mental state for that moment? If you are going in a meeting or for some important work, No way ,we just wasting our time and energy in this stupid stuff which wouldn’t be worthy for us .It is just a time consuming task nothing more than else. Then what can we do at that time . We can do many things at that time , we can plan our strategy or if any presentation is there then we can plan how to start and finish it, if our exam is there then we can take some relax at that time or if nothing is there then we can call someone whom we can’t give time in our busy life. So we can do lots of things rather than doing the anger. See choice or response is in your hand , what do you want “ANGER ” or “HAPPINESS ”.Again the same thing Response and choice depend on you not on the others or situations. :)

SILENCE

When we listen this word “Silence”, what we think at that moment , Peace, calm, tranquility. But we ever think that we really have this in our life. We are just going with pace. We are running behind to achieve our targets or getting something worth. But why we are running , we can also achieve this with peace and calmness .we can do all the things with silence. But in today’s world what we always see that what someone or other person do we should behave same like them even we don’t think that why they are behaving like, is there any reason for it. Take an example like …just I entered in the office and someone got disturb or angry due to his own reason but when I came to his contact, I did the same behave with him. He was angry and told me something in a wrong way and after just listing these words I was irritable , even didn’t realize that why he was so upset or angry. I used more better wrong words for him. I thought how he dare to me saying like this. STOP just think for little moment at that time. Back to this example when you entered in the office and met with that person who was so angry but YOU were so calm, fresh and full of positivity and met with person. HERE you can do a lot .Just meet that person with calmness and give a peaceful smile and then ask silently what happened and if possible then give any idea to resolve his problem due to which he got angry. HERE you change your destiny, don’t know how .See when you meet that person with calmness ,you just accept him at that time and give your positivity to him ,here no confliction no discord nothing else only and only peace ,silence. So you build your strong relationship here. If this same thing you repeat everywhere then you can analyze that you can easily change your destiny because with silence and peace you can concentrate more on your work and you can give your best effort to your work.
Have you seen ever SEA …what sea does, if we throw any stone in them either it take that stone in the depth from where that stone never comes out or just flow that stone with waves to seashore from where it again never comes back. We should be like sea cool ,calm and full with peace.:)

ATTACHMENT

We always say that I'm very sensitive and emotional. Why are we like that? Is there any disease in us or do we like to do that? It is all attachment and nothing more than this. When we are attached with someone, we always have a fear that we may lose this/him/her or that thing. So what we do is we get attached to the thing or hold the thing so tight that it can not leave us. We do every possible thing that we should so that we may not lose it. It must be with us at any cost or we start to take things in the way which we call POSSESSIVENESS. We should understand that in this universe everything will demolish one day, it either be a person or thing. Once we understand this, our fear will end and we will enjoy the relationship and our life. Let's take an example: 1. A surgeon can do the surgery of thousands of people but he can't do the surgery of his own family just because he is attached with his family. He needs someone else for doing this.
2. A wife loves her husband so much that she's always having this fear that my husband must always be well or he should not leave me. So she is attached with her husband and suddenly if the husband says anything to her wife in a bad mood and manner then why does she get upset or hurt? It is because of this attachment.

We should detachably be attached with the people. So that when they need our help we are always there for them, but, if we are so sensitive and emotional then how will we be able to help them? It's like I hear someone's painful story and I get hurt because I am so sensitive, then at that time first we should heel ourselves or we can say that we need treatment to get out of it then only we will be able to support or console the other person.."I love you" and "I am attached with you" both are very different. So, we should detachably be attached with the people. Something which has to happen will always happen on the day defined so why are we having so much fear for that day? Why we are not enjoying the things that we currently have and why do we just waste our time thinking about something which is not in our control?

SELFTALK

In today’s world, when people are having problems and questions related with that problem, they are finding their solution every where. Be it from either friends, relatives or any other thing. They think that other people know the solution, somewhere its right that we are asking others and they might be very experienced people but how much can we be sure that the answers which will be given by them would be absolutely right because they can understand only our situation but not our problem and what we really feel at that time. So where should we go to find the solution of our problems.
"NO WHERE"...again in URSELF, just relax for 10 seconds and ask yourself that, is it right for me or am I right at my place or whatever the question you are having. You will get the answer quickly and that answer will be absolutely right because that answer will be given by your own soul which can never be wrong. There is no need to go anywhere or not even use your mouth or ears. Just create a thought (problem) ask it to yourself and you will get another thought (solution) at the same time. Because, everyone has a pure and beautiful soul, which always enlightens us. It depends on us that how much we follow it. If we always deny what our inner voice says, then it might happen that it stops talking to us but we can start to talk with our soul. So don’t go anywhere for finding the solution of your problem. Start SELF TALK you will get all the answers.:)

ACCEPTANCE

See people around you....Everyone is saying,I want to be happy,I want peace,I want love.....Who will give them happiness,peace,love.We always depends on others that they will say or do some kind of things which will be according to me then I'll be happy,or when the situation is going according to me so that I will be happy.....Will it happen that everything goes according to you ?...."NO"...other people and situation never goes according to you.It mean that you'll never be happy.So how can we happy?
Answer is...."Happiness,peace and love is not around you.It is in you,firstly analyze in yourself then u can see that." and the next things are people and situation...nothing will go according to you but it can go with you....you can change other people and situation but for this you have to accept all the things as they are coming"ACCEPTANCE".once you accept it then you can change it easily but firstly accept it.Because everyone is right in his/her place, what things make difference is our perception,our way of thinking to take that.So,for love,peace and happiness ,don't go here and there....It is within you. :)

YOU ARE THE CREATOR OF YOUR DESTINY

Dont think about your past and future,nothing is in your control.You are just drainage ur energy nothing more than this.Try to tell your heart and mind that don't think about past i m just wasting my energy and time.....and believe me when u motivate other people they listen u very carefully and then they apply things which u told them.....then y not your own heart listen and follow to u.Your thought is in your control then y u think about others ....if u want to be HAPPY then don't rely on other people that they'll say n do such n such thing then I will be HAPPY,"NO"...You are the creator....You are the king of your thought and DESTINY.Other people are just a stimulus which coming from outside what they say its their perception but what you will do after it.... depends on u.....it means RESPONSE is in your hand...then see the whole world is so beautiful....